Are my Indian friends are jealous? because they keep accusing me of bleaching my skin and wearing contacts!?

I was born in a rural village in Kerala, India and lived there until I was about eight or nine years old. I had made many friends there and we got along very well. My dad was working in Kerala so that's why my family had lived there. Both my parents are Indian, but have more of a Kashmiri/Middle Eastern background. I have light brown hair, pale skin, green eyes. We recently moved back to Kerala and now my friends keep accusing me of bleaching my skin. They keep asking me what creams I use. They also say that I wear contacts and dye my hair. They also told some other girls that I actually have black hair and black eyes, and have "darker" skin that everyone in the village. (which is ridiculous because when i was little I had blond hair and blue eyes). In front of me, they act nice, but other times they're always spreaing rumors. They also keep calling my by a different name: KAURWAKI. THe keep telling me: "too fair for your own good" What is wrong and why are they calling me Kaurwaki?

Are my Indian friends are jealous? because they keep accusing me of bleaching my skin and wearing contacts!?
Their jealous


I have actually seen a few indian women with the same coloring as you, doesnt happen to often, im meditterean background but have the same type of coloring as you and get mistaken for a light skin indian all the time by indians bc my features are indian, through experience I can tell u to be careful of friends that are two-faced, dont associate with them anymore they seem backstabbing





Point is they want what u have bc its desirable to them(think aish rai)
Reply:A lot of Kashmiri people are light like that. I'd just tell them it's the Kashmiri ancestry, and if they have issues, tell them to sod off.
Reply:I think you do understand culturally that lighter skin is desired in India.





I think that's unfortunate, because some of the most beautiful women I've ever seen were brown skinned Indian women.





In other words, it is not your skin color that makes you beautiful. Maybe you should tell them that. Assuming you don't act like you're better than them, there's probably nothing else you can do.
Reply:I know about the preoccupation with skin colour in India, Africa, and the South, and racial prejudice was certainly not invented and perfected in the United States. The racially-motivated contempt that divides Indians of the North and of the South is an age-old curse that blocks the potential of the poeple.





In the Hidden Words, Baha'u'llah says:





'Know ye not why We created you all from the same dust? That no one should exalt himself over the other. Ponder at all times in your hearts how ye were created. Since We have created you all from one same substance it is incumbent on you to be even as one soul, to walk with the same feet, eat with the same mouth and dwell in the same land, that from your inmost being, by your deeds and actions, the signs of oneness and the essence of detachment may be made manifest.'





Let your example of love in action surpass and eclipse the current example of your friends. You can attract them by your example to a higher level of cooperation that is not hindered by racial taunting and division.
Reply:From what I know of Indian culture, the British colonized India for years. They succeeded at changing Indian names into Eurocentric ones, placed their diet and their ways onto the peoples of India. Even in the U.S., women of color, Indian to African, Hispanic to Japanese, the standards of beauty are mainly Eurocentric (light eyes and straight and light hair, and the such). Even in my African-American culture, the lighter-skinned girls are always the preferred over darker-skinned girls. Personally, I have do not straighten my hair or bleach my dark skin; I love who I am as an African-American woman. Indian women are some of the most beautiful women in the world, but just as darker African women, there are few examples that reflect this (movies, singers, etc.) We must be examples for ourselves; colonization make it a bit harder. Although British superiority is gone, the mental effects are painfully there.
Reply:Yes they are jealous of you......I am the same as you......I look different to the rest of my family because of my exotic looks. I have been asked by many people what nationality I am. Actually I have dutch/french/Maori (NZ indigenous group) When I lived in Australia I have been taken for Lebanese, Portugese, Tahitian - Don't worry about it to much and just be yourself ignore them all if they continue to be horrible and lucky you for having good genes LOL

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